Being Two-Facedal-Haafidh Abu Haatim Muhammad ibn Hibbaan
Reference: Rawdat al 'Uqalaa: P. 49
Category: Sayings of the Salaf
Abu Haatim, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: It is compulsory for an intelligent individual who was blessed by Allaah to have love for a Muslim, to stay close/cling on to him. He should accustom himself to stay in contact with him if he cuts him off, to turn towards him if he turns away, to give him if he withholds, to draw close to him if he distances himself, to the point that he is like a pillar in his life. It is from the greatest of faults for a person to be two faced in his affection.
but is deceitful in my absence and is not regretful.
He unwillingly amuses me so I may love him,
but his words in my absence strike me like arrows.
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and one whose rope/aid is feeble, when extended.
And one who is of two colors [two-faced], is not consistent,
in keeping ties, a betrayer of everyone trustworthy.
And one who has two hearts - meeting him,
is enjoyable, but is untrustworthy in his absence.
And one whom if his eyes were to speak,
they would cut off all paths of companionships.
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The eye reveals what is within the soul,
of hatred or love if present.
Indeed one who harbors hatred has an eye [look] which is apparent,
unable to conceal by it what lies within his heart.
The eye speaks even though the mouth moves not,
to the point where you would clearly see what lies within the heart.
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A neighbor that continues to send me,
painful words that do not allow me to sleep.
His affection is distance from those close to him,
rather aversion, refuses to be consistent.
He rushes to extend the Salaam when we meet,
while underneath his ribs lies a diseased heart.
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and brothers: 'Hayaak Allaah' and 'Marhaba (welcome)'.
And brothers: 'How are you and how's your family.',
but all this holds not the weight of a grain of sand.
Extremely generous when you are not in need of his wealth,
he says: I can give you a loan you if you are in need.
But if you tried to reach what is behind him,
you would find that his wealth is more distant than you thought.
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My brother is not the one who shows his love for me verbally,
but my brother is he who shows love for me during hardships.
He whose wealth is mine if I had none,
as my wealth is his if he were in need
So do not praise a friend during times of ease,
for he may forfeit his friendship during hardships.
He is only: 'How are you', and 'welcome',
but with his wealth is as evasive as a fox.
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